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Some Lessons on Love

February 15, 2015

Dr. La Rae Carter

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Tips from a 58-year-old marriage:

Keep your love fresh and as exciting as it was when you fell in love.  Do for each other, little things as well as big.  Never let anyone come between you as a couple, not with advice or in your decisions.  Not Mom, Dad, or friends.   Never take each other for granted.  Put forth effort to renew your relationship every day by being interested in what your spouse has a passion for, whether it be work, recreation, or just plain fun.  With each child that comes, life becomes more complicated, and it is easy to put your spouse on the back burner.    Be unified in all your decisions about raising the children.  Then they will not be confused or manipulative as to the rules of the house or who is in charge.  They NEED you to be in control of the home, to be a parent, friendly, but not a friend.  They have enough friends.  The wife can set the tone of the home, whether she likes it or not.  If you exude a happy, positive and kind spirit, all of the family will pick up on it, have the same outlook, and feel secure.  And never downplay the importance of humor.  An important philosopher once said that if your intended has not laughter  or humor in his/her outlook, run from that person.  You will not be happy.  May I conclude with these words from an old popular song:  “Love Is a many splendored thing,” and its splendors will continue to broaden and amaze you all of your life if you are engaged in what love truly means and the depth, wonder, and possibilities it can open up to you and your spouse.

Jeremiah and Alison Krites

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Don’t let your relationship become too serious. Learn to laugh during the hard times and be able to laugh at yourself. 

Professor Morgen Reynolds and Daman Reynolds

1. Always wear deodorant. Seriously. It matters.
2. Sometimes, it is actually good to go to bed angry. Pray together before bed, but late night conversations sometimes don’t get anything settled as well as a good night’s sleep might.
3. Don’t use the toilet while they are in the bathroom. This is my own personal doctrine. I will run out screaming “The magic is gone!!” I’m not kidding on this one. I will sing really loud if I have to do my business while he is in the shower. It’s all about the romance.

Elizabeth and Tyler Laurent

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It is really important to not get offended! Also, take time to find activities that you both enjoy, but also encourage each other to do activities/develop talents individually. I’m sure someone has said this, but put your spouse’s needs above your own, and if they do the same, life will be much easier and more fun.

Dr. Scott Dransfield and Andrea Dransfield

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Always leave with a kiss; always return with one.

(Post by Madeleine Gail Rex ’16.)

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